Too old, too young, just right
My attraction to men older than me and to men younger than me are quite different. I’ve been thinking about this because online I’m primarily, by far, attracted to younger guys or guys very near my age.
I forget easily that I’m as old as I am. I know I look younger than my age. Also, I’ve never been married, have no children, and don’t own my own property. I have a “younger” lifestyle than most women my age.
I’m involved in various groups and activities, mostly professional, where I meet men who are usually older than I am — my guess is by 10 years or more. There are many of them whom I would definitely be interested in if they were in me. Most of them seem to be married and *not* interested and I’m ok with that, too. I’m not actively crushing on any of them. I’m also sure that if these exact same men contacted me online, I’d find it (and them) creepy.
It’s possible I’d find it creepy if they approached me in real life, too, I’m not sure. OTOH, I’m not usually impressed with guys much younger than me when I encounter them in real life. (If they’re particularly hot, I do find them attractive, but I’m not interested in any interactikon with them… usually.)
Online it’s definitely by far (though not without exception) the younger guys I’m interested in.
So, what does this all mean? Mmmm, I dunno.
AdultFriendFinder is not a fair, equal opportunity playing field. Basic supply and demand economics gives women a strong advantage. I’m fairly unremarkable in real life, but here, my age, weight, and willingness to post photos puts me in a much higher class of desirability.
There’s a discord between who’s in my “league” here and in real life. I’m having trouble reconciling it.
All this writing is just part of my trying to work through an issue that’s been churning up internal conflict in me.