The Pickup Artist
on VH1. Starring Mystery.
This show is frigging hiLARious. I love it. A few years ago I read “The Game” by Neil Strauss which is also all about this whole pickup thingy.
Guys, it works. I hate to admit it. Just about every “trick” I’ve heard on the show or read in the book undoubtedly will work most of the time. EVEN on a girl, like me, who’s aware of what you’re doing. That’s so sad, isn’t it?
Well, with one exception, for me anyway. The “neg” — at least the ones that are basically a backhanded compliment. I hate those. They piss me off.
Anyway, my real post topic is — where the hell are the pickup guidelines for women who want to pick up hot men? Stop laughing. I’m serious.
There’s this idea out there that it’s a snap for a girl to get laid. Well, ok, yeah, in its most literal interpretation, that’s true. But, just like for men, it’s the *really* hot guys/girls who have almost no problem. There’s also the added fact (or broad generalization) that women have higher standards for who they want to sleep with. That could be a whole post on its own, but yeah, I could easily *just* get laid. I do NOT get hit on by guys that are super hot.
Oh, and I’m not saying that I’m only interested in those out of the world model type guys any more than most guys are only interested in out of the world model type women. But, it would be nice to know how to hit on them.
Great, now that I’m done watching the show I can’t remember what I wanted to babble about. I guess there’s always next time.
Oh, and I went out bar-hopping kind of on Friday. Why the HELL are all the really REALLY hot guys gay and hanging out at gay bars? WTF? Dammit. Now I’m both horny AND ornery.
September 23rd, 2007 at 6:44 pm
As a general rule, women don’t hit on men. They are terrified at rejection and would rather let men take that risk.
They flirt and make their intentions known that they want to be hit on, but they themselves don’t do the “hitting”.
Most guides for women to get men involve playing hard to get, etc. They are also usually done with the intent of getting married, where as male guides are written to get laid.
There are no special tricks for men. Most men would be happy just to have a woman come up and talk to them.
You seem to focus a lot on getting attractive men.
September 23rd, 2007 at 7:51 pm
I wish I knew the answers to those questions too. I guess the whole talk about “leagues” is true. I mean, when I see a person I know their (fairly objective) level of hotness quite instantly. Although then the pickup artists come about the seem to subvert that hierarchy (or so they claim — I have a friend heavily invested on it who so far has not been very successful, although he seems to be improving). There is also the complication that in these things we are trying to understand the way the *other* sex is thinking, and we don’t know how wildly different it can be — sometimes the genders seem incredibly similar, sometimes galaxies apart.
g, who can blame her? Everybody likes attractive people, no? She did mention that that was not her goal, just that it would be nice to be able to.
September 23rd, 2007 at 8:14 pm
g — I realize that might be true of women in general, but it’s not of me. I DO hit on men. And have been rejected as often or more than not.
In my own personal experience, it is NOT true that men are just happy to have a women approach them, though it also seems to be that most men THINK that’s true, even of themselves.
Forgive me if I read this wrong, but your last comment seems to be a criticism? Why exactly would I be interested in UNattractive men?
Ok, I admit that I place more value on looks than the average woman does, but in my defense, I couldn’t care less about dating a guy with lots of money and/or status, which is what women stereotypically are interested in.