Sex first
I just read this in someone’s profile: “a great relationship starts in the bedroom… then goes from there.”
That’s something I agree with and have meant to write about it. Compared to most people, I’m fairly kinky. I forget that since I’m so used to hanging out places like here (well, virtually hang out anyway), other similar online communities, and sometimes IRL with similarly minded people.
So… yes, I would like to have a romantic relationship. But, I don’t want just ANY one.
I’m a Quirkyalone.
Quirkyalone: noun/adj. A person who enjoys being single (but is not opposed to being in a relationship) and generally prefers to be alone rather than dating for the sake of being in a couple. With unique traits and an optimistic spirit; a sensibility that transcends relationship status.
So, I only want a relationship that is sexually non-monogomous. Enables/shares/celebrates (not sure of the right word) my kinks. Of course, there are other things I want, too, in a relationship, but those are very important to me.
So, sex first, then we can find out if we’re compatible other ways afterwards. I hear a lot the warning that women shouldn’t sleep with a guy right away. That guys don’t want to date a woman who slept with them so quickly. LOL! Great. I don’t WANT to date a guy who thinks like that, so my method weeds them out right away! 
Actually, I went on a date with a guy recently. And I’m totally undecided if I want to go out with him again or not. I need to have sex with him before I can figure that out!
I have love and friendship. Absolutely wonderful friends and family. I have sex, even kinky sex. And if nothing else, this place has taught me that that will always be available! Although it would be Fabulous if I could have both in the same person. I’m not willing to give up the quality of either for that.
So, sweet talk me AND fuck me. Not necessarily in that order.
February 22nd, 2007 at 10:21 pm
Guess I’m odd, if I don’t get sex on the first date, or the offer, the relationship ends quickly. All my long term relationships either involved sex on the first date, or the offer.
February 23rd, 2007 at 12:36 pm
Me, too. About the major relationships. I could see not having sex on the first date under some circumstances… need to get up early the next day, not feeling well, both of us have guests, etc. But not because “oh, I don’t do that.”