A new first for me!
I’m so proud of myself! The other day, for the first time ever, I came while masturbating by using my hands. I’d never done that before.
I’ve read about guys who say they’d like to see a woman masturbate and I always thought, “Boy, would they ever be disappointed watching me!”
I learned to masturbate when I was very young and have done it almost the same way every since. I lie in bed on my side with a pillow between my legs. I use one or both hands to pinch and play with my nipples. I rock my hips against the pillow. When I’m close to cumming, I use one hand to put pressure on the pillow so I can really grind hard against it. (All the while I have a running fantasy going on in my head, too. That’s just as essential as the physical stuff.)
Until I found out how fabulous the pillow was, I used to do the same thing, but by just squeezing my thighs together, rhythmically tightening my pubococcygeus muscles (aka Kegel muscles), and rocking my hips.
Now whenever I’m with a guy and really into things — really turned on — my hips rock. I can’t help it. They just do it all by themselves!
Anyway, I was reading this book that’s supposed to teach women to cum more easily and it has these “exercises” to do. And I though, oh what the hell, why not. And it worked! It took a LOT longer than usual, but it did work. I still had to play with my nipples and fantasize at the same time, but I don’t think that was against the “rules.” It felt different than my usual self-induced orgasms, too.
I do sometimes have trouble cumming when I’m *with* a guy. My mind gets distracted and I start worrying about it taking too long. And my mind has to be focused on what’s going on for it to happen, so being worried just makes my worries MORE likely to happen. Downward spiral from there.
I’m just amazed when I hear about women who don’t masturbate. Crazy.
Anyway, now I have to try the rest of the exercises, too! 