Another Sex Blog

Friday night - major storm in Chicagoland.

AnotherSexBlogger’s computer is charging.

Boom. No electricity.

No more laptop.

No more hours on end reading/answering email and blogging.

So, I get those two comments a lot. I’m wondering…

Why? What makes “perfect” or “great” nipples? (Most of the comments about my pic are about my nipples in particular.)

I *really really really* don’t want to sound like I’m fishing for compliments. That’s not it. It’s just that until I came (”ha ha she said came”) onto this site and posted the photo I have, I always thought I had UNattractive nipples. Well, no, I thought I had unattractive aureola..uh..uh.. not sure what the correct plural form of aureola is!

So, what IS it that is (or is not) attractive about mine? Or others’?

And you get extra points if you tell me what you want to do to mine and get me turned on.

See my Exhibitionist post, for visual inspiration.

I felt totally WRONG lusting after Mario Lopez until I looked it up and found out that Mario’s a year older than me. Whew!

Wow. Hot hard body. Dancing. With dimples.

Perhaps not the most interesting blog post tonight, but my mind is preoccupied…

(And I had to go search for a clip of last season’s Drew Lachey Freestyle dance… Wow again.)

Ok, I need to stop thinking about what I cannot have. You know the cliche of guys thinking of sports or something to stop being turned on? I’m imagining that neither Mario nor Drew can spell. Yup, that’ll do it for me… completely horrible spelling. Poor grammar. Unable to complete a crossword for the life of ‘em.

I may be turned on by (some) of the same things/people as everyone else, but at least my turnOFFS are unique.

In case you have no idea what the craigslist sex scandal IS, see Violet Blue’s synopsis.

That page also contains links to info about the “prank”.

(Oh, and for those guys that think us women who complain about the misspellings and just-not-nice emails we get, take a look at some of the responses at http://www.encyclopediadramatica.com/index.php/RFJason_CL_Experiment

These are the kinds of responses we ALL get — even those who do NOT post “I like it rough and nasty” ads.)

Very simply summed up: rjfason posts ad on Seattle craigslist that is supposedly from a submissive female seeking sex with a dom male. “Supposedly” because I read that he copied the ad from another place and just used it. The ad doesn’t read at all, to me, like a real ad. I think even the original was probably a fake… but anyway… so he gets all the scuzzy email responses that all women who post online in any sort of remotely sexually related way gets. Then he proceeds to post these responses online in their entirety — including any identifying info he received.

People are debating. Did he break the law? Is this unethical? Did these guys who responded and are now being outed (for lack of a better term) deserve it? Is this a fabulous way to teach people that they shouldn’t give out private info to someone they don’t know? Is this even a big deal?

I’m kind of amazed at how controversial it all is.

I don’t know if he broke the law. I honestly thought that any correspondence I received from someone was mine to do with as I wished, but apparently there *are* laws against that in some places.

Damn YES it’s unethical! He’s a jerk. His only motivation is to BE a jerk. I read a piece where someone compared him to the people who pose as underagers to catch pedophiles. Well, I think that’s kind of shitty, too, but it’s NOT the same. Yeah, motivation matters. Even in the law it matters. That’s the main difference between murder and manslaughter, isn’t it?

Then there’s the argument that no one should give out their private info to a stranger and people should be more cautious blah blah blah. Look, whoever you are reading this, you give out your personal info to people you don’t know ALL THE TIME. I thought phishing was actually illegal. Why do people get upset about it if all it is is a scammer pretending to be someone/something he/she is not and getting your info in the process? According to this logic, it shouldn’t matter at all that you assumed your information was going to a different person or that it was going to be used in a different way. Or identity theft. All that person is doing is using information about you that you yourself made available in *some* way.

But, some argue, these are slimy sleazy guys who are sending dick pics and offensive words and are looking to be the top in a bdsm relationship. Guys who want to fuck and fuck up some girl. Uh, yeah… so? I know others have made the point that this would be seen differently by a lot of people (though certainly not all) if it were an “experiment” (as rfjason calls it) to publicly out gays or lesbians. But since it’s guys who most people see as, well, icky, then it’s ok. Afterall, if they hadn’t responded to *that kind* of ad then they wouldn’t have to worry about all this. Yeah. And if that girl hadn’t worn that short skirt on her date, she wouldn’t have been raped. It’s ALL HER FAULT. Silly of her to have trusted a guy she hardly knew enough to let him drive her home. Well, yeah, actually, that IS stupid.. er, silly of her. But it doesn’t excuse the guy from being EVIL for raping her. Get the analogy?

Also — rfjason claims to be ignorant of how this could possibly hurt anyone’s life. He claims that no one could be fired, for example, over this. First, sexual preference is NOT automatically protected from discrimination everywhere. It’s local, not federal. Then there’s the fact that that only refers to sexual orientation — gay, straight, bi. NOT kinky vs vanilla. There’s no law protecting people from being fired for having a picture of their genitals online. Personally, I think there *should* be a law that says employers can’t fire you for what you do outside of work, but there’s not. And there’s definitely no law that protects people from having their friends or family reject them. Even for sexual orientation. *MY* friends and family wouldn’t. I’m assuming from his attitude that rfjason’s wouldn’t either. But that’s SO not true for lots, if not most, people.

I also read someone suggest that maybe this would keep some of those jerks who aren’t *really* responding to the ads and are just being assholes from responding to ads in the future. I doubt it. They’ll still respond, only now some of them will use fake info or set up anon email addresses. It’s the guys who are sincere who will no longer respond. And for those of us women who really ARE sincerely posting ads, we lose out. Yeah, it’s a pain to dig through all the drudge and slime to find the few gems, but they really are out there. I’ve met some and had some fabulous experiences. I wonder if some of those men will no longer answer ads. Or will no longer send me a face photo when I ask for one… which means I will NOT be meeting with them.

This is just another time when I have to ask “Why can’t we just all be nice?”

I know it’s so naive, but it’s still the only solution to most of the world’s misery. IMHO.

So, I think it’s pretty clear that I get really turned on sucking cock. And having my mouth filled with cum.

And therein lies the problem.

See, I give a guy a blowjob. I get REALLY turned on doing so. He cums.

He’s done. I’m turned on. Usually wanting to be fucked.

See the problem? I mean, it’s not like this is making my life miserable. I don’t spend hours worrying about it. It’s just kind of annoying at times.

I did give head once to a guy while I was lying on my back and he was kneeling over me, one leg on each side of me. Then, when finished, he kind of sat on my chest, below my breasts, and played with my nipples until I came. THAT was nice.

Ah… pleasant thought to send myself off to sleep with.

Yeah, I don’t know what that title means either.

I’ve changed my profile to indicate that now I’m looking for… well… I still don’t know what to call it. Not a one-nighter. Not Friends with benefits — because, personally, I’ve found the benefits part of that not to be so evenly distributed among the friends involved. Not a committed Long Term Relationship, though, either. Something between the one-nighter and the LTR. A Friends with Benefits with Potential. Which means more than two dates, I guess, so I have to nix that policy.

Other random thoughts:

I like these new smileys. I feel like thinking up things to say just to be able to use them.

I just got back from my ex-boyfriend’s place. We talked. Had a beer. Gave him a blowjob. Then I left. I didn’t really get anything obvious out of it, but I still had fun. Does that make me weird or what? I say I didn’t get anything “obvious”, because I did get *something* out of it, otherwise I wouldn’t have done it and wouldn’t have left with a smile on my face. Ok, first I really *like* giving head. And he tastes particularly good. And, damn, he just *appreciates* it so much! It’s nice. Hmmm… I can’t help but think of the people who criticized my earlier adventures and are soooo sure that I’m disturbed in some way. I’m pretty sure they’d see this post as more evidence for their theory, but hey, if I’m crazy and *happy* then who the hell cares if I’m crazy?

That’s it. I have nothing else for now. I thought I had more random thoughts chasing around in my head, but they’re hiding and I can’t find them at the moment.

G’night.

Yeah, so I’m drunk. Noooo, I’m not out drinking with guys. I was drinking with my family. Well, my mom, my sister, my sister’s b/f, and my sister’s friend.

And I’m drunk texting some ex-boyfriends for fun.

And drunk-blogging.

I have a cold, too, which sucks.

I’m NOT looking for an exclusive LTR, but a boyfriend to take care of me when I have a cold and someone I could call when drunk would be nice.

That’s all.

Hmmm, funny, I just mentioned two things that kinda suck (having a cold and not having a b/f to take care of me), yet I’m pretty content and happy right now. Weird.

FYI - If you’re reading my blog post, I send you my mental love.